Our guest today is Kristen Boyle, an expert Yoga Therapist and Somatic Coach. She is, first and foremost, a healer who facilitates your connection to self and transformation. Kristen supports Single Moms who are juggling to raise children and carry forward a professional career.
Kristen blends together yoga and somatic therapy and teaches us how they complement one another in different ways.
She was a trained dancer who got into yoga afterward. And then, when her daughter was born, she wanted to do something for herself. That's when she became a yoga teacher. That was the time when her marriage was disintegrating and had become emotionally abusive. She recognized very clearly that yoga sustained her in those times.
We also talk about somatic therapy today, which, to her, is something that involves a dialogue through the body. You recognize your bodily sensations and work on your feelings. This, as Kristen says, helps in a curing fashion. "The next time that similar feeling comes up, you know, you're safe. So we're using the sensation, we're using dialogue, a lot of it describes the sensation to me. Those words are really important."
Living a more embodied life, according to Kristen, is "embodied mindfulness." This is when "we talk a lot about mindfulness, which is watching your thoughts and being present with what you're doing and being mindful[...] And it really is almost as simple as checking in with your body."
We also discuss the action of asking for and receiving help. Kristen has taught a masterclass on this subject. She argues that when you ask for help, it relieves you of the pain or conflict caused and allows the ones helping you because it gives them the feeling of having done service. They have the opportunity to feel significant.
This conversation has widened my thinking and perceptions of a lot of areas in life. Listen in and experience its power for yourself!
Quotes from Kristen Boyle:
“In my work, we're always accessing the deeper layers. So we may be doing something physical, but it accesses the energetic layer of our body, it accesses the emotional layer, it accesses the intellect of the mind. And then it accesses the spiritual realm.”
“I often say that trauma can have a lowercase t, it doesn't have to have a capital T, you know, some of us have had major trauma. You know, others of us have lots of anxiety, and we never had a capital T trauma. So, we need to normalize and accept that everybody responds differently to trauma.”
“Without the conscious mind having to remember a situation where you may have felt fatigued and that you wanted to get out to that extreme degree, you get to work through that feeling.”
“Feelings in my language are physical sensations. They're also energetic sensations. They're also emotional. They're also intellect.”
“I believe we all are empathic. There are studies that show and prove that our hearts co-regulate our heartbeat when you're interacting with someone.”
“We do a service to everyone around us by being less reactive, by responding to what's needed by not having to go into the drama and the story and, you know, the chaos and woes, and oh my gosh, the world's a dangerous place.”
“There's so much that can happen when you ask for help. First of all, you become relatable to other people, you know, they see you, they see themselves in you, and they feel like they can connect to you. And then they get to give you support, which is fulfilling to them because everybody needs to feel significant in this world. And so if they get to help you, then they feel like they've done some service, they've done something significant, you know, and then by asking for help, you're actually allowing your nervous system to settle because now there's something off your plate.”