Relationship & Marriage Coaching
For individuals and couples who want to have a better relationship.
If you struggle with:
✔️ Having a push-pull dynamic in your relationship where one of you needs space and the other partner feels triggered by the space
✔️ Doubting whether you’re in the right relationship or feeling uneasy when your partner is distant or avoiding commitment
✔️ Not speaking up for what you want, feeling the need to go with the flow, or like everyone else’s needs are more important than yours
✔️ Avoiding conflict or having conflict that feels unresolved
✔️Feeling unworthy, not enough, unlovable or like there is something wrong with you
If this sounds like you, then you, my friend, are in the right place.
Together, we'll help you
Resolve conflict: So you can stop having the same arguments and move on.
Repair old relationship wounds: So you can trust each other again.
Get Your Needs Met: without feeling like a burden or you’re too needy so you feel like you’re getting 100% of each other.
Feel worthy of a healthy relationship: so you aren’t defensive and reactive to your partner’s feedback.
Set Loving and Supportive Boundaries: Using my simple two-step boundary tool so you never feel disrespected.
Real results
My partner and I worked with Sarah for about ten months, and the experience was truly transformative for both our relationship and our personal growth. I originally discovered Sarah through her podcast while searching for resources on avoidant attachment patterns. Her insights resonated deeply with me right away, and after our initial call, both my girlfriend and I knew she was the right fit for us.
Over our time together, Sarah helped us build critical communication skills that completely changed how we show up for each other. She guided me in recognizing my avoidant tendencies and learning how to clearly articulate my needs, while helping my partner learn how to deeply validate and acknowledge what I was sharing. As an interracial couple with very different personalities, Sarah’s personal and professional experience working with interracial couples was invaluable in helping us celebrate our differences and navigate cultural nuances. She also thoughtfully guided me through complex family dynamics, like introducing my partner to my mom, and helped us uncover our core individual and shared values.
Beyond being an extraordinary, empathetic listener who pulls out thoughts and feelings you didn't even realize you had, Sarah provides fantastic, well-structured activities and resources that we still actively reference today. She creates a warm, non-judgmental environment that builds your confidence instead of making you feel bad about areas where you need growth. We wrapped up our coaching feeling fully equipped with skills that will last a lifetime, and we’ve been recommending her to all of our friends and family ever since. Anyone looking to understand their partner better or navigate relationship challenges would be incredibly lucky to work with Sarah! - Ian Mwangi
Ian worked on taking next steps with his partner Mycah to introduce her to his mom.
I started working with Sarah because I was going through a divorce and I wanted to work on my dismissive avoidant attachment style. I was struggling at the time with depression and negative self-talk. I was dating someone new and didn't want to repeat my old patterns. Working with Sarah I have changed the way I think about myself. I have started setting boundaries with my coworkers, my ex, and my current partner. I have also started to become more vulnerable with my current partner. I am able to understand and communicate my feelings in the moment. It's all a practice but it's a relief to have these tools. I am so glad I took the leap to work with her. I just wish I had done it sooner.
-David
David worked on healthy relationship patterns in dating after a divorce.
What are attachment styles?
Attachment styles help us understand how we relate to other people in relationships. They explain the strategies we use consciously and unconsciously to find and receive love. It’s a powerful tool that helps us understand our needs and get them met in a conscious way to create a healthy relationship.
How are attachment styles formed?
You are not responsible for the creation of your attachment style. It is based upon the environment that you grew up in. Your subconscious used these attachment strategies in order to create as much safety as possible in your childhood. If you’re an insecure attachment style you represent 50% of the population. As adults it is important to take responsibility to heal your attachment style because these outdated patterns are no longer relevant and are likely hurting you or people that are important to you.
Overview of the Attachment Styles
Attachment Style Anxious
As an anxious attachment style individual, you prioritize close social connections above all else. You don't love being alone. You enjoy texting with your partner throughout the day. If you don't hear from them, you can panic and start to send more messages because you fear the closeness in the relationship is threatened. You likely grew up in a household with unpredictable caregivers that sometimes attuned to you and sometimes didn’t. Your work is to learn to set boundaries and self-soothe on your own. You will see great success when you start to meet your own needs and solidify your self-identity.
Attachment Style Avoidant
With an avoidant attachment style, you are likely to be slow to warm up to others. You may come across as cold or distant. Emotions can be quite difficult for you because during childhood it was not safe for you to be vulnerable. You likely experienced neglect from your caregiver growing up. Your go-to emotions are irritation and impatience with your partner. You can also feel often like trapped or swallowed by your partner or close relationships. You are very practical, grounded, and tend to be very high achieving. Your work is to get in touch with your emotions, learn to be vulnerable, and share needs and boundaries from a grounded non-reactionary place.
Attachment Style Fearful Avoidant / Disorganized
This is also known as disorganized or anxious avoidant attachment style. As a fearful avoidant, you oscillate between anxious preoccupied and dismissive avoidant strategies. You are charming and very present when meeting new people. You run hot and cold with your emotions. You crave intimacy but it can also be scary. You struggle with trust in relationships because you couldn’t trust your caregiver growing up. You likely experienced trauma in your childhood. Your go-to emotion is anger when you feel trapped, helpless, or powerless in a situation. You probably don’t like setting boundaries and often set them from a reactionary place. Your work is to build self-trust by both learning how to self-soothe and get in touch with your emotions.
Attachment Style Secure
As a secure attachment type, you tend to be very in touch with your emotions. You know how to self-soothe and process emotions when you are triggered. You are aware of your emotions in the moment and feel comfortable sharing them with others. You understand that boundaries are important and have no problem sharing them with others. You might need help with resolving an old belief. Getting coaching or support is helpful when you're going through a difficult time in your life like divorce or a loss.
Run, do NOT walk, to start coaching with Sarah!
She will LITERALLY CHANGE YOUR LIFE.
My experience her appointments were judgment-free, safe spaces with a warm friend who gives a damn yet can still tell it to me straight when I need to hear it.
Her availability and checkins in between sessions always made me feel seen as well.
Wherever you are on your healing journey i'm confident Sarah will help.
Highly recommend!
- Francis John
Real results
Francis found the courage and confidence to date after a tough breakup.
Real results
Jordan found a partner and they moved in together.
I highly recommend working with Sarah. She provided a safe and accepting space for me to address some common dismissive avoidant patterns. After serial dating for a while, I wanted to find a long-term partner. Sarah helped me update and change the stories and beliefs I held about myself. She also assisted me in processing my emotions, including anxiety and some ick with the people I was dating. Overall, I have become more compassionate and understanding towards myself. Although finding a committed relationship was not the primary focus of our coaching, I am now in a committed partnership and feel open and ready to have healthy communication with this person.
-Jordan
Working with Sarah has been truly life-altering. One of the biggest shifts has been in my relationships, especially with my daughter. I’ve learned to sit with her big feelings instead of belittling them, and now we have a more open, honest, and secure bond. At work, I’ve found the courage to address issues directly with coworkers and managers, and it feels empowering to be heard and respected.
In my personal life, I’ve started dating again with a completely different mindset. I have learned to let go of my defectiveness wound. I trust myself to recognize red flags, I know my non-negotiables, and I no longer settle for dynamics that don’t feel safe or healthy.
Overall, I feel more grounded, more resilient, and more hopeful. I finally feel like I’m becoming the version of myself I always wanted to be.
-Mabel
Mabel created a healthy relationship with her young daughter
What's included
✔️ 6 months of weekly one-on-one 60-minute coaching calls for individuals and 90-minute calls for couples
✔️ 24/7 Unlimited text support between sessions
✔️ Personalized coaching plan based on your unique attachment style and what you're experiencing each week
✔️ Personalized dashboard that includes worksheets and meditations
✔️ Accountability and feedback on daily worksheets and exercises
Who I Work With
Coaching for Individuals
I work with individuals at every stage of their relationship journey—whether you're considering a breakup or separation, navigating the pain of a recent divorce, or single and looking for a long-term partner.
Start by booking a free 60-minute Healthy Relationships Roadmap Call, where you'll discover your unique path to creating secure, fulfilling relationships.
Coaching for Couples
I support couples in building healthy, connected relationships. This coaching helps you fight better, communicate more clearly, and heal attachment wounds—together.
Each 90-minute session includes one-on-one coaching for each partner followed by 30 minutes together. This structure allows for deep individual work and guided support during difficult conversations.
Get started by booking a free 90-minute Healthy Relationships Roadmap Call. Both partners are expected to attend. On this call, you'll discover your shared path to secure attachment.
What We'll Cover
Boundary communication
Learn how to communicate and set boundaries using customized scripts and a personalized plan to see results. You will receive accountability and a personal roadmap to take each step along the way so you can feel supported and safe. Boundaries will help you create a deep passionate loving relationship without sacrificing your core values.
Vulnerable communication
You'll learn scripts and conversation formats to communicate vulnerably and honestly while staying grounded within yourself. You'll learn how to share your feelings and have them received with kindness. This helps you foster healthy communication where you’re working together as a team with a shared vision and life goals.
Understand and communicate your needs
You will do a deep dive into understanding your own unique personality needs and learn how to communicate your needs so you feel seen, heard, comfortable, and safe with everyone around you.
Understand and communicate emotions
You will learn new tools to understand your emotions in the moment and process them so they don't linger. You will also learn scripts to communicate emotions with other people so your vulnerability is met with kindness.
Feel worthy of a relationship
You will learn tools and practices to change outdated beliefs and thinking so that you feel worthy of a deep passionate relationship.
Book a free healthy relationships roadmap call to get started. 👇
Real results
Rebecca stopped worrying about what other people think and found the confidence to be honest and authentic in her friendships, dating, and with family.
Working with Sarah has genuinely changed me. I didn’t expect coaching to have such a profound impact, but it’s been one of the most valuable things I’ve done for myself on my journey to self-discovery.
When I met Sarah, I was years into a huge shift from ending a long-term, difficult marriage and late-term pregnancy loss, to understanding who I was as a single mother of three young children. I was way too consumed with how other people saw me, and I had a hard time setting boundaries with my family, my ex, and even my kids. Honestly, I didn't even understand boundaries, which had become abundantly clear after the end of a post-divorce relationship with a man I truly loved.
Over the course of our work together, I’ve completely changed the way I talk to myself. I’m so much kinder to myself now. I’ve learned how to recognize what I need, communicate it, and set boundaries without feeling like I have to justify myself or take all of the blame for situations that unfold. I've learned how to be accountable for my side of things without overcompensating.
And then, during the last two months of working together, I went through one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to navigate as a mom. I handled it differently than I would have six months ago. I was able to advocate hard for my kid, stay grounded, and make decisions based on what she actually needed instead of getting swallowed up by fear, guilt, or other people’s opinions.
I honestly don’t recognize the person I was six months ago. In a really good way.
Six months isn't a cure-all. But if you're committed to growth and change, it's enough time for you to feel the ground truly shift under your feet, and to provide you with the tools for continued success on your own. This is possibly the most profound part of this whole process. I feel capable of managing boundaries, difficult feelings, loss, and disagreement without Sarah now. She has given me the road map to continue the journey on my own.
If you are ready to truly heal and grow, Sarah is the place to begin.
-Rebecca