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✨Are you a people-pleaser who cares more about other people's needs than your own?
✨Do you struggle to communicate boundaries or needs?
✨Do you run hot and cold in relationships with one foot on the gas and the brake?
✨Are you ready to create trust and show up confidently in secure relationships?
If this sounds like you, then you, my friend, are in the right place.
Sarah Cohan is a relationship and communication coach. She helps folx end old relationship patterns like people-pleasing and codependency in order to show up confidently in secure relationships.
Sarah specializes in working with people who run hot and cold in relationships and people who have an intense fear of betrayal or abandonment. She helps them regulate their internal emotional state and communicate boundaries and needs in order to foster trust and safety in their relationships.
She is a certified integrated attachment coach and somatic experiencing practitioner.
I highly recommend working with Sarah. She helped me share my needs and communicate directly in a casual relationship that I was in. I had some pretty strong beliefs that I was a burden if I asked for my partner to meet my needs and Sarah helped me change this belief. In our sessions, she always helped me create communication scripts in a fun and lighthearted way that still got my needs across. Now I’m using the same tools to date. I am showing up confidently and honestly through direct communication. It is possible to change your attachment style and Sarah can help you do it!
- Chelsea Riffe
Sarah helped me start a new job in a new career as a substitute teacher. Through our work together I was able to show up more confidently in the workplace and see the good that so many other people say that they see in me. I am so grateful for our work together. I can finally say I have unshakeable belief in myself in this new career.
What are attachment styles?
Attachment styles help us understand how we relate to other people in relationships. They explain the strategies we use consciously and unconsciously to find and receive love. It’s a powerful tool that helps us understand our needs and get them met in a conscious way in a safe and supportive relationship.
How are attachment styles formed?
You are not responsible for the creation of your attachment style. It is based upon the environment that you grew up in. Your subconscious used these attachment strategies in order to create as much safety as possible in your childhood. If you’re an insecure attachment style you represent 50% of the population. As adults it is important to take responsibility to heal your attachment style because these outdated subconscious programs are no longer relevant.
Overview of the Attachment Styles
Attachment Style Anxious
As an anxious attachment style you prioritize close social connections above all else. You don't love being alone. You enjoy texting with your partner throughout the day. If you don't hear from them you can panic and start to send more messages because you fear the closeness in the relationship is threatened. You likely grew up in a household with unpredictable caregivers that sometimes attuned to you and sometimes didn’t. Your work is to learn to set boundaries and self-soothe on your own. You will see great success when you start to meet your own needs and solidify your self-identity.
Attachment Style Avoidant
With an avoidant attachment style you are likely to be slow to warm up to others. You may come across as cold or distant. Emotions can be quite difficult for you because during childhood it was not safe for you to be vulnerable. You likely experienced neglect from your caregiver growing up.
Your go-to emotions are irritation and impatience with your partner. You can also feel often like trapped or swallowed by your partner or close relationships. You are very practical, grounded, and tend to be very high achieving. Your work is to get in touch with your emotions, learn to be vulnerable, and share needs and boundaries from a grounded non-reactionary place.
Attachment Style Fearful Avoidant / Disorganized
This is also known as disorganized or anxious avoidant attachment style. As a fearful avoidant you oscillate between anxious preoccupied and dismissive avoidant strategies. You are charming and very present when meeting new people. You run hot and cold with your emotions. You crave intimacy but it can also be scary. You struggle with trust in relationships because you couldn’t trust your caregiver growing up. You likely experienced trauma in your childhood. Your go-to emotion is anger when you feel trapped, helpless, or powerless in a situation. You probably don’t like setting boundaries and often set them from a reactionary place. Your work is to build self-trust by both learning how to self-soothe and get in touch with your emotions.
Attachment Style Secure
As a secure attachment type you tend to be very in touch with your emotions. You know how to self-soothe and process emotions when you are triggered. You are aware of your emotions in the moment and feel comfortable sharing them with others. You understand that boundaries are important and have no problem sharing them with others. You might need help with resolving an old belief. Getting coaching or support is helpful when you're going through a difficult time in your life like divorce or a loss.
Benefits of Attachment Coaching
✔️ Proven framework and roadmap to heal your attachment style
✔️ Quick relationship tools with massive results
✔️ Tools and scripts to turn your current relationship around or successfully start dating again
✔️ Deep dive into all areas of life not just relationships and dating
✔️ Trauma-informed coaching certified in Integrated Attachment Theory
"Sarah has such a talent for making someone feel so safe, so seen, and so respected in their journey no matter what phase they may be in. I felt 100% comfortable while in this session. I highly recommend Sarah to help create a path to healing any attachment style or even to help reinforce a secure one. Thank you Sarah" - Erin Cadwallander
Erin healed outdated dating beliefs
"Sarah is darling! A breath of fresh air. She is funny, kind, and a joy to work with." - Kara
Kara healed from a divorce
"Sarah was incredible to work with. She welcomed me with a real down-to-earth kindness and joyful energy at each session as we worked through understanding my relationship patterns and processing the unconscious patterns. She always left space for meeting me where I was emotionally, and honoring where I was in my personal growth journey. Thank you, Sarah!” -Anita
Anita worked on her relationship with her husband
✔️ One on one 60-minute video calls
✔️ Unlimited text support between sessions
✔️ Personalized coaching plan based on your unique attachment style
✔️ Client portal that includes worksheets, meditations, and resources
✔️ Customized weekly homework
Sample 12 week program
I will tailor a custom program for you based on your own unique attachment style. Below is a sample of what your program might look like.
Intake and attachment discovery session (2 sessions)
The program starts by creating a deeper understanding of your attachment style. You will learn more about your attachment style and the underlying patterns of how relate to others in relationships.
Understanding core wounds and patterns (2 sessions)
Core wounds are beliefs developed in childhood that hold you back from a secure mindset. They are in the driver’s seat of our subconscious. We will review your core wounds and start to reprogram your subconscious beliefs towards a secure mindset.
Questioning stories and beliefs, subconscious reprogramming, and perceptual shift tools (1-2 sessions)
You will learn how to start questioning long-held beliefs in order to let them go. You will also learn perceptual tools to continue breaking down your beliefs and letting go of patterns that are no longer serving you. During these sessions, you will become an expert at reprogramming your subconscious with a more secure mindset. You will start to see your relationships in a new light.
Discovering your personality needs (1 session)
In this session you will learn about your top personality needs. Our personality needs drive most of our unconscious behavior. Becoming aware of needs is the first step to understanding how to get them met in a healthy way. You will become an expert in understanding your moment to moment needs.
Creating habits and communication strategies for your needs (2 sessions)
In this session, we’ll design new habits and strategies to meet your own needs and communicate them to people around you including partners, potential partners, family, friends, and colleagues. This tool will help you get your needs met in order to feel safe and supported in all of your relationships.
Boundary audit and communication (1-2 sessions)
During these sessions you will learn what your relationship is to boundaries. We will create an exposure plan tailored to your comfort level to start to communicating boundaries. We will also review scripts and templates for boundary communication so you feel fully prepared to share them in the moment. These tools and scripts are key to ending codependency and cultivating supportive relationships.
Your Relationship Shadow (1 session)
In this session you will learn about your shadow in relationships. Your shadow is made up of repressed subconscious traits that you rejected in childhood in order to stay safe. You will learn what your relationship shadow is and how to heal the subconscious beliefs around it. This exercise will help you accept yourself and allow others to accept you exactly as you are.
Jess moved in with her partner
"You were so great at digging into things, and brought real energy and thoughtfulness to each session - excited for more people to be able to take advantage of your great work!" - Jess H.
"Sarah helped me through a tough transition in my dating life. By the end of the program, I felt so much better. I continue to use her tools for belief reprogramming and emotional processing."