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Does this sound familiar?
✔️ With previous partners you didn't know how to communicate or hold your boundaries.
✔️ You're worried about hurting or pushing other people away when expressing how you feel.
✔️ You tend to people-please because you don’t want to make waves.
✔️ You don't know how to be vulnerable or you're scared to be vulnerable.
✔️ Deep down you feel unworthy of a relationship or like there's something wrong with you.
If this sounds like you, then you, my friend, are in the right place.
Sarah Cohan is a relationship and communication coach. She helps people end old patterns like people-pleasing and fear of vulnerability to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re working together as a team.
She is a certified integrated attachment coach and somatic experiencing practitioner.
Real results
I highly recommend working with Sarah. She helped me share my needs and communicate directly in a casual relationship that I was in. I had some pretty strong beliefs that I was a burden if I asked for my partner to meet my needs and Sarah helped me change this belief. In our sessions, she always helped me create communication scripts in a fun and lighthearted way that still got my needs across. Now I’m using the same tools to date. I am showing up confidently and honestly through direct communication. It is possible to change your attachment style and Sarah can help you do it!
- Chelsea Riffe
Sarah helped me start a new job in a new career as a substitute teacher. Through our work together I was able to show up more confidently in the workplace and see the good that so many other people say that they see in me. I am so grateful for our work together. I can finally say I have unshakeable belief in myself in this new career.
-Dee Sturgess
What are attachment styles?
Attachment styles help us understand how we relate to other people in relationships. They explain the strategies we use consciously and unconsciously to find and receive love. It’s a powerful tool that helps us understand our needs and get them met in a conscious way in a safe and supportive relationship.
How are attachment styles formed?
You are not responsible for the creation of your attachment style. It is based upon the environment that you grew up in. Your subconscious used these attachment strategies in order to create as much safety as possible in your childhood. If you’re an insecure attachment style you represent 50% of the population. As adults it is important to take responsibility to heal your attachment style because these outdated patterns are no longer relevant and are likely hurting you or people that are important to you.
Overview of the Attachment Styles
Attachment Style Anxious
As an anxious attachment style individual, you prioritize close social connections above all else. You don't love being alone. You enjoy texting with your partner throughout the day. If you don't hear from them, you can panic and start to send more messages because you fear the closeness in the relationship is threatened. You likely grew up in a household with unpredictable caregivers that sometimes attuned to you and sometimes didn’t. Your work is to learn to set boundaries and self-soothe on your own. You will see great success when you start to meet your own needs and solidify your self-identity.
Attachment Style Avoidant
With an avoidant attachment style, you are likely to be slow to warm up to others. You may come across as cold or distant. Emotions can be quite difficult for you because during childhood it was not safe for you to be vulnerable. You likely experienced neglect from your caregiver growing up. Your go-to emotions are irritation and impatience with your partner. You can also feel often like trapped or swallowed by your partner or close relationships. You are very practical, grounded, and tend to be very high achieving. Your work is to get in touch with your emotions, learn to be vulnerable, and share needs and boundaries from a grounded non-reactionary place.
Attachment Style Fearful Avoidant / Disorganized
This is also known as disorganized or anxious avoidant attachment style. As a fearful avoidant, you oscillate between anxious preoccupied and dismissive avoidant strategies. You are charming and very present when meeting new people. You run hot and cold with your emotions. You crave intimacy but it can also be scary. You struggle with trust in relationships because you couldn’t trust your caregiver growing up. You likely experienced trauma in your childhood. Your go-to emotion is anger when you feel trapped, helpless, or powerless in a situation. You probably don’t like setting boundaries and often set them from a reactionary place. Your work is to build self-trust by both learning how to self-soothe and get in touch with your emotions.
Attachment Style Secure
As a secure attachment type, you tend to be very in touch with your emotions. You know how to self-soothe and process emotions when you are triggered. You are aware of your emotions in the moment and feel comfortable sharing them with others. You understand that boundaries are important and have no problem sharing them with others. You might need help with resolving an old belief. Getting coaching or support is helpful when you're going through a difficult time in your life like divorce or a loss.
"Sarah has such a talent for making someone feel so safe, so seen, and so respected in their journey no matter what phase they may be in. I felt 100% comfortable while in this session. I highly recommend Sarah to help create a path to healing any attachment style or even to help reinforce a secure one. Thank you Sarah" - Erin Cadwallander
Real results
Erin healed outdated dating beliefs
Real results
"Sarah is darling! A breath of fresh air. She is funny, kind, and a joy to work with." - Kara
Kara healed from a divorce
"Sarah was incredible to work with. She welcomed me with a real down-to-earth kindness and joyful energy at each session as we worked through understanding my relationship patterns and processing the unconscious patterns. She always left space for meeting me where I was emotionally, and honoring where I was in my personal growth journey. Thank you, Sarah!” -Anita
Anita worked on her relationship with her husband
What's included
✔️ 6 months of one-on-one 60-minute coaching calls
✔️ 24/7 Unlimited text support between sessions
✔️ Personalized coaching plan based on your unique attachment style and what you're experiencing each week
✔️ Personalized dashboard that includes worksheets and meditations
✔️ Accountability and feedback on daily worksheets and exercises
What You'll Learn
Boundary communication
Learn how to communicate and set boundaries using customized scripts and a personalized plan to see results. You will receive accountability and a personal roadmap to take each step along the way so you can feel supported and safe. Boundaries will help you create a deep passionate loving relationship without sacrificing your core values.
Vulnerable communication
You'll learn scripts and conversation formats to communicate vulnerably and honestly while staying grounded within yourself. You'll learn how to share your feelings and have them received with kindness. This helps you foster healthy communication where you’re working together as a team with a shared vision and life goals.
Understand and communicate your needs
You will do a deep dive into understanding your own unique personality needs and learn how to communicate your needs so you feel seen, heard, comfortable, and safe with everyone around you.
Understand and communicate emotions
You will learn new tools to understand your emotions in the moment and process them so they don't linger. You will also learn scripts to communicate emotions with other people so your vulnerability is met with kindness.
Feel worthy of a relationship
You will learn tools and practices to change outdated beliefs and thinking so that you feel worthy of a deep passionate relationship.
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Real results
Jess moved in with her partner
"You were so great at digging into things, and brought real energy and thoughtfulness to each session - excited for more people to be able to take advantage of your great work!" - Jess H.
"Sarah helped me through a tough transition in my dating life. By the end of the program, I felt so much better. I continue to use her tools for belief reprogramming and emotional processing."
-Lindsay