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✨Are you sick of tumultuous relationships?
✨Are you tired of making new relationships that lead to burnout and feeling disconnected?
✨Have you tried therapy and you're still not making any progress?
✨Are you ready for connected and supported relationships this year?
If this sounds like you, then you, my friend, are in the right place.
I offer one on one coaching to fearful-avoidant women who struggle with chaotic relationships to recondition their fears and understand their needs so that they can feel supported and safe in relationships again.
Hi! I'm Sarah Cohan.
I am a recovering fearful-avoidant which means I inconsistently oscillated from anxious-preoccupied to dismissive-avoidant attachment in my relationships.
I grew up with a lot of unhealed trauma. I didn't understand why I was always comparing myself to others and feeling unsafe most of the time. I used to run hot and cold in relationships and had mega trust issues.
Using attachment theory I have developed an understanding of my feelings, my needs, and deep respect for boundaries.
I have reprogrammed old fears and beliefs that were outdated and developed tools to communicate to my loved ones, family, and bosses in order to feel safe and supported in my relationships.
I know you can leave behind your old stories and step into the securely lit life that is your birthright.
What are attachment styles?
Attachment styles help us understand how we relate to other people in relationships. They explain the strategies we use consciously and unconsciously to find and receive love. It’s a powerful tool that helps us understand our needs and get them met in a conscious way in a safe and supportive relationship.
How are attachment styles formed?
You are not responsible for the creation of your attachment style. It is based upon the environment that you grew up in. Your subconscious used these attachment strategies in order to create as much safety as possible in your childhood. If you’re an insecure attachment style you represent 50% of the population. As adults it is important to take responsibility to heal your attachment style because these outdated subconscious programs are no longer relevant.
"Sarah is darling! A breath of fresh air. She is funny, kind, and a joy to work with." - Kara
Kara healed from a divorce
"Sarah was incredible to work with. She welcomed me with a real down-to-earth kindness and joyful energy at each session as we worked through understanding my relationship patterns and processing the unconscious patterns. She always left space for meeting me where I was emotionally, and honoring where I was in my personal growth journey. Thank you, Sarah!” -Anita
Anita worked on her relationship with her husband
Overview of the Attachment Styles
Attachment Style Anxious
As an anxious attachment style you prioritize close social connections above all else. You don't love being alone. You enjoy texting with your partner throughout the day. If you don't hear from them you can panic and start to send more messages because you fear the closeness in the relationship is threatened. You likely grew up in a household with unpredictable caregivers that sometimes attuned to you and sometimes didn’t. Your work is to learn to set boundaries and self-soothe on your own. You will see great success when you start to meet your own needs and solidify your self-identity.
Attachment Style Avoidant
With an avoidant attachment style you are likely to be slow to warm up to others. You may come across as cold or distant. Emotions can be quite difficult for you because during childhood it was not safe for you to be vulnerable. You likely experienced neglect from your caregiver growing up.
Your go-to emotions are irritation and impatience with your partner. You can also feel often like trapped or swallowed by your partner or close relationships. You are very practical, grounded, and tend to be very high achieving. Your work is to get in touch with your emotions, learn to be vulnerable, and share needs and boundaries from a grounded non-reactionary place.
Attachment Style Fearful Avoidant / Disorganized
This is also known as disorganized or anxious avoidant attachment style. As a fearful avoidant you oscillate between anxious preoccupied and dismissive avoidant strategies. You are charming and very present when meeting new people. You run hot and cold with your emotions. You crave intimacy but it can also be scary. You struggle with trust in relationships because you couldn’t trust your caregiver growing up. You likely experienced trauma in your childhood. Your go-to emotion is anger when you feel trapped, helpless, or powerless in a situation. You probably don’t like setting boundaries and often set them from a reactionary place. Your work is to build self-trust by both learning how to self-soothe and get in touch with your emotions.
Attachment Style Secure
As a secure attachment type you tend to be very in touch with your emotions. You know how to self-soothe and process emotions when you are triggered. You are aware of your emotions in the moment and feel comfortable sharing them with others. You understand that boundaries are important and have no problem sharing them with others. You might need help with resolving an old belief. Getting coaching or support is helpful when you're going through a difficult time in your life like divorce or a loss.
Benefits of Attachment Coaching
✔️ Proven framework and roadmap to heal your attachment style
✔️ Quick relationship tools with massive results
✔️ Tools and scripts to turn your current relationship around or successfully start dating again
✔️ Deep dive into all areas of life not just relationships and dating
✔️ Trauma-informed coaching certified in Integrated Attachment Theory
"Sarah has such a talent for making someone feel so safe, so seen, and so respected in their journey no matter what phase they may be in. I felt 100% comfortable while in this session. I highly recommend Sarah to help create a path to healing any attachment style or even to help reinforce a secure one. Thank you Sarah" - Erin Cadwallander
Erin healed outdated dating beliefs
Julie created new habits to build her biz
"Sarah really creates a safe space to process and share, which makes her sessions all the more productive to personal growth."
"Sarah's method of goal setting has shifted the way I look at goals more broadly and I am excited to bring it into my every day."
Emily Regan Byrne
✔️ One on one 60-minute video calls
✔️ Personalized coaching plan based on your unique attachment style
✔️ Worksheets and somatic meditations to solidify tools
✔️ Customized weekly homework overview sent via email
✔️ Access to all of my virtual workshops
✔️ Unlimited text and email support from me
What you will learn
Sample 10 week program
I will tailor a custom program for you based on your own unique attachment style. Below is a sample of what your program might look like.
Intake and attachment discovery session (2 sessions)
The program starts by creating a deeper understanding of your attachment style. You will learn more about your attachment style and the underlying patterns of how relate to others in relationships.
Understanding core wounds and patterns (1 session)
Core wounds are beliefs developed in childhood that hold you back from a secure mindset. They are in the driver’s seat of our subconscious. We will review your core wounds and start to reprogram your subconscious beliefs towards a secure mindset.
Questioning stories and beliefs, subconscious reprogramming, and perceptual shift tools (1-2 sessions)
You will learn how to start questioning long-held beliefs in order to let them go. You will also learn perceptual tools to continue breaking down your beliefs and letting go of patterns that are no longer serving you. During these sessions, you will become an expert at reprogramming your subconscious with a more secure mindset. You will start to see your relationships in a new light.
Discovering your personality needs (1 session)
In this session you will learn about your top personality needs. Our personality needs drive most of our unconscious behavior. Becoming aware of needs is the first step to understanding how to get them met in a healthy way. You will become an expert in understanding your moment to moment needs.
Creating habits to meet your own needs (1 session)
In this session, we’ll design new habits and strategies to meet your own needs and communicate them to people around you including partners, potential partners, family, friends, and colleagues. This tool will help you get your needs met in order to feel safe and supported in all of your relationships.
Boundary audit and communication (1-2 sessions)
During these sessions you will learn what your relationship is to boundaries. We will create an exposure plan tailored to your comfort level to start to communicating boundaries. We will also review scripts and templates for boundary communication so you feel fully prepared to share them in the moment. These tools and scripts are key to ending codependency and cultivating supportive relationships.
Your Relationship Shadow (1 session)
In this session you will learn about your shadow in relationships. Your shadow is made up of repressed subconscious traits that you rejected in childhood in order to stay safe. You will learn what your relationship shadow is and how to heal the subconscious beliefs around it. This exercise will help you accept yourself and allow others to accept you exactly as you are.
Jess moved in with her partner
"You were so great at digging into things, and brought real energy and thoughtfulness to each session - excited for more people to be able to take advantage of your great work!" - Jess H.